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Dec. 30, 2024

Create Your Own Closure: How to Let Go and Embrace a Fresh Start for the New Year

And That, My Friend, is What They Call Closure As each year draws to a close, it's natural to feel a whirlwind of emotions. We often look back on the highs and lows, reflecting on how much has changed. For some, the end of the year brings a sense o…

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Dec. 26, 2024

The Mafia’s Control of New York's Gay Bars: A Hidden Chapter in LGBTQ+ History

A Whole New Meaning to Leave the Gun, Take the Cannoli When most people hear the word "Mafia," they likely envision the world of The Godfather or The Sopranos, iconic images of tough, masculine, and often violent men running organized crime empires…

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Dec. 23, 2024

True Allyship: Moving Beyond Performative Support for the LGBTQ+ Community

Understand Your Privilege and Do Your Research The term ally gets thrown around often, especially during Pride Month. For many straight people, adding an ally sticker to their Facebook profile or waving a rainbow flag in June feels like enough. But…

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Dec. 17, 2024

Queer Cheer: Unwrapping LGBTQ+ Stories in Holiday Films

Make the Yuletide Gay with These Movies Holiday films have long been a staple of the season, offering warmth, joy, and plenty of sentimentality. However, for LGBTQ+ audiences, traditional holiday movies often lack the representation needed to refle…

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Dec. 10, 2024

The LGBTQ+ Holiday Survival Guide: Navigating the Season’s Joys and Challenges

Ho Ho How the Hell Are We Gonna Get Through This? As the holiday season swings into full gear, it's impossible to ignore the festive ads, decorations, and music that have been with us since before Halloween. There is a palpable sense of joy in the …

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Dec. 3, 2024

Navigating Love with Attachment Styles: Building Healthier Relationships for Gay Men

Cue Needy by Ariana Grande In recent years, the concept of attachment styles has gained increasing attention, particularly in conversations about relationships and emotional health. For many, including those in the LGBTQ+ community, understanding a…

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Nov. 26, 2024

The Pressure to Achieve Perfection: Body Obsession in the Gay Community and Its Impact on Self-Worth

If Being Anxious Was a Form of Exercise, I’d Be Jacked Body image pressure is a prevalent source of anxiety for many gay men. The "perfect" body—often imagined as tall, muscular, and traditionally masculine—has become the standard…

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Nov. 19, 2024

The Evolution of Blood Donation Restrictions for Men Who Have Sex with Men

Let’s Assess Sexual Behavior Rather Than Sexual Orientation In May 2023, the United States lifted its longstanding restrictions on blood donations from men who have sex with men, marking a significant victory for the LGBTQ+ community. This po…

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Nov. 12, 2024

Perfectly Imperfect: Understanding Perfectionism and Its Impact on Gay Men

As Nina Sayers Says in Black Swan, “I Just Want to be Perfect.” Perfectionism is a complex personality trait that manifests across various aspects of our lives, including career success, body image, and personal achievements. At its cor…

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Nov. 5, 2024

Queer as Folk: A Groundbreaking Journey of LGBTQ+ Representation

I'm Just Gonna Say It: Brian Kinney Was Insufferable When I first watched Queer as Folk (at 21 years old, shortly after coming out of the closet), it was a stark contrast to the shy, inexperienced person I was at the time. The show’s unapolog…

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Oct. 29, 2024

The Hidden Queerness of Horror: Unmasking the Genre’s LGBTQ+ Roots

The Only Thing Scarier Than Straight People is Queer Horror Stereotypes In recent years, there has been a noticeable rise in LGBTQ+ representation in film, including the horror genre. However, the connection between horror and queerness is not a ne…

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Oct. 22, 2024

Navigating the Workplace as an LGBTQ+ Professional: The Importance of Being Out and Authentic

Why Are Straight Coworkers' Life Events Celebrated, While LGBTQ+ Identities are Seen as “Flaunting” In the journey of being our authentic selves, the workplace stands out as one of the most challenging environments for LGBTQ+ individual…

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Oct. 15, 2024

Beyond the Rainbow: The Dark Side of Corporate Pride and Rainbow Capitalism

Pride Messaging is Nice, But Those Social Media Rainbows Don't Actually Protect the LGBTQ+ Community As Pride Month rolls around each year, we are met with a familiar sight: a sea of rainbow-colored merchandise, corporate Pride messages, and compan…

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Oct. 8, 2024

The Journey of Coming Out: Understanding Its History and Significance

My Coming Out Was Nothing Like the Joyful Celebration Diana Ross Sang About Gay men have various coming out experiences, ranging from joyous celebrations filled with love and acceptance to painful rejections marked by sorrow and disappointment. Eac…

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Oct. 1, 2024

The Impact of the Trump Administration on the LGBTQ+ Community: A Journey Through Setbacks and Advocacy

Orange is the New Threat Over the past few years, it has become increasingly evident how much politics shapes the lives of the LGBTQ+ community. While this has always been true—dating back to landmark moments like the Stonewall Riots and the …

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Sept. 24, 2024

Finding Your Community: Navigating LGBTQ+ Friendships Beyond the Party Scene

Just Because I Don’t Fit Into the Gay Party Scene Doesn't Mean I Have to Settle for Mediocre Heteros Finding a sense of community within the LGBTQ+ world is essential, especially for those of us who have experienced gay loneliness. Yet, some …

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Sept. 17, 2024

Streaming Through Stereotypes: The Progress and Pitfalls of LGBTQ+ Representation in Media

Where Are the Plant-Loving, Early-to-Bed Gay Characters, Hollywood? Whenever I browse through the LGBTQ+ section on Netflix, Hulu, or Prime Video, I find myself navigating a limited selection of films and shows. While there are options available, t…

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Sept. 10, 2024

The LGBTQ+ Panic Defense: A Threat to Our Safety and Equality

As If Being Gay Wasn’t Exhausting Enough It’s no surprise that the LGBTQ+ community continues to grapple with significant challenges, including systemic discrimination, unequal legal protections, and social stigmas, all of which hinder …

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Sept. 3, 2024

Pop Icons and Emotional Resonance: The Deep Connection Between Gay Men and Pop Music

Feeling Heartbroken? Empowered? Sexual? There's a Pop Queen for That Pop culture has a unique resonance within the LGBTQ+ community, especially among gay men. The relationship between gay men and pop music is complex and emotionally charged, weavin…

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Aug. 27, 2024

Understanding and Addressing Emotional Unavailability in Gay Men: Causes, Signs, and Solutions

Not Sure If I'm Emotionally Available, But I'm Definitely Emotional We often hear about emotional unavailability, especially when relationships falter. It often seems like a buzzword to explain a partner's bad behavior. But what does it really mean…

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Aug. 20, 2024

Parallels of Past Pandemics: The LGBTQ+ Community's Struggles from AIDS to COVID-19

Decades of HIV Research Paved the Way for the COVID-19 Vaccine. You’re Welcome, Straight People. During the height of the COVID-19 pandemic, global healthcare systems were overwhelmed, economies suffered severe disruptions, and widespread unc…

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Aug. 13, 2024

Unpacking Internalized Homophobia: A Deeper Look at Self-Directed Negativity

Is It Me? Am I the Homophobe? Many have heard the term internalized homophobia, but few fully understand it. It's often used to describe a gay man who seems sexually repressed or self-loathing. However, the concept delves much deeper than these sur…

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Aug. 6, 2024

The Power of Vulnerability in Building Authentic Gay Relationships

After Years of Hiding in the Closet, I'm Now Expected to Reveal My Flaws Without Fear of Rejection? What is This? Some Kind of Sick Joke? Vulnerability is a concept that has been foreign to me for much of my life, yet it is undeniably essential for…

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July 30, 2024

Project 2025: A Dire Threat to LGBTQ+ Rights and Democracy

Welcome to the United States of Gilead. RIP Democracy. As we navigate through 2024, it is alarming to witness the rise in anti-LGBTQ+ legislation and hate crimes. Even scarier is Project 2025, an ultra-conservative initiative poised to reshape Amer…

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