Many gay men struggle with intimacy, trust, and emotional safety in dating, often stemming from early experiences of rejection, secrecy, or emotional neglect that shape adult attachment patterns. In this video, we explore attachment theory in the context of gay dating and how secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful attachment styles shape the way gay men form and maintain relationships.

By understanding attachment styles, gay men can begin to communicate more openly, break repeating cycles in dating, and move toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

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Sources:
Attachment Theory: https://www.britannica.com/science/attachment-theory

Romantic Love Conceptualized as an Attachment Process: https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1987-21950-001

Love and Work: An Attachment-Theoretical Perspective: https://doi.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0022-3514.59.2.270

The Different Types of Attachment Styles: https://www.simplypsychology.org/attachment-styles.html

The Integrated Attachment and Sexual Minority Stress Model: Understanding the Role of Adult Attachment in the Health and Well-being of Sexual Minority Men: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4969073/

Gay Males’ Intimate Relationship Quality: The Roles of Attachment Security, Gay Identity, Social Support, and Income: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/1475-6811.00057

Shame, Internalized Homophobia, Identity Formation, Attachment Style, and the Connection to Relationship Status in Gay Men: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/1557988309342002

Attachment and Relationship Satisfaction Among Gay Men: The Mediating Role of Well-Being: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s13178-021-00634-2

Volitional Change in Adult Attachment: Can People Who Want to Become Less Anxious and Avoidant Move Closer Towards Realizing those Goals?: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1002/per.2226

How to Cope with an Insecure Attachment Type: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/attachment/how-to-cope-with-an-insecure-attachment-type/

What's Your Attachment Style? Take This Quiz to Find Out: https://www.npr.org/2022/02/09/1079587715/whats-your-attachment-style-quiz

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