The fine line between genuine kindness and people-pleasing can pose a challenge, as the latter may lead to sacrificing one's own needs, compromising authenticity, and fostering unhealthy dependencies in relationships. But gay men, in particular, tend to be influenced by societal expectations and the desire to counter stereotypes, resulting in a higher likelihood to engage in excessive people-pleasing behaviors as they navigate social dynamics and seek acceptance.
In this episode, we’re diving into the nuanced correlation between the childhood fear of rejection from growing up gay and the emergence of people-pleasing behaviors in adulthood among gay men while discussing strategies to cultivate self-compassion, set clear boundaries, and prioritize individual needs for a more authentic and personal empowered life as gay men.
Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/94-girl-please-say-no-to-people-pleasing/id1619338054?i=1000649684367
Related Episodes:
Listen to Episode 13. Perfectly Imperfect: Conquer Your Perfectionism
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/13-perfectly-imperfect-conquer-your-perfectionism/id1619338054?i=1000569642304
Listen to Episode 34. GBF: Gay Best Friend
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/34-gbf-gay-best-friend/id1619338054?i=1000589013081
Listen to Episode 85. Boundaries: How to Understand and Set Them
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/85-boundaries-how-to-understand-and-set-them/id1619338054?i=1000641820212
Additional Resources:
People Pleaser (Merriam-Webster)
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/people%20pleaser
What Is People-Pleasing?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-finesse/202003/what-is-people-pleasing#:~:text=Our%20friends%20at%20Merriam%2DWebster,positively%20regarded%20is%20quite%20natural
People-Pleasing
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/people-pleasing
People Pleaser: What It Means and How to Stop
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/people-pleaser
How to Stop People-Pleasing
https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-5184412
What is a People Pleaser?
https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-is-a-people-pleaser
How to Stop People-Pleasing (and Still Be Nice)
https://www.healthline.com/health/people-pleaser
How Does Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Show Up for Gay Men?
https://www.centreforgaycounselling.com/2020/10/29/fight-flight-freeze-fawn-and-gay-men/
Gay People Have Been Taught to Be People-Pleasing Push-Overs
https://www.advocate.com/love-and-sex/2019/3/02/gay-people-have-been-taught-be-people-pleasing-push-overs
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